The Gentlemen's Book of Etiquette and Manual of Politeness

The Gentlemen's Book of Etiquette and Manual of Politeness by Cecil B. Hartley is a guide on social conduct and manners written in the mid-19th century. The book serves as a comprehensive manual for gentlemen, outlining the expected etiquette in various social settings such as dining, conversation, and public behavior, emphasizing the importance of politeness and decorum in society. The opening of the book introduces the concept of etiquette as essential for social interaction, arguing that humans are inherently social beings who find fulfillment in companionship. Hartley stresses the significance of observing social norms as a way to blend into various circles and enhance one's social standing. The introduction also highlights that politeness should stem from genuine feelings of kindness and regard for others, contrasting true politeness with mere adherence to rigid social rules. It sets a foundational understanding that real gentlemanly conduct encompasses both heartfelt intention and appropriate behavior in interactions with others.